Best Hookup Sites for 2023 (that Actually Work and Won’t Scam You)
Because sometimes, you just wanna get laid
Hookup culture and casual dating: Also known as the thing that has basically replaced real dating over the past 20 years or so, and the thing that your parents and grandparents bitch about because “nobody has a real conversation anymore.”
We all know that’s not true, however, and the glorious combo of online dating and dating apps has forever changed the way that singles connect.
When we think dating sites, we usually think about the likes of eharmony and match and other marriage-minded options. But not every single person is trying to participate in the next cuffing season.
Sometimes, you just wanna get laid. Enter: The hookup app revolution.
Everyone gets stuck in a rut at some point, and let’s face it, trying to take strangers home from the bar or constantly hitting up your ex who you know is DTF can get old. (Not to mention complicated.)
But what are you supposed to do? Just ignore the fact that you’re human?
It might be time to let a hookup app take the wheel. Apps and websites specifically designed for hooking up operate on the philosophy that meeting someone special doesn’t need to be a big complicated thing.
Besides, sometimes it’s just nice to feel those butterflies of meeting someone new — even if you know it’s not going to lead to a relationship.
What makes a good hookup site?
When it comes to dating apps, you probably don’t mind long questionnaires or in-depth profiles, but when you’re just looking for a casual hookup, that all seems unnecessary.
Sure, you want to gauge that you’re at least a little compatible and not hooking up with a complete psychopath. The best hookup apps have quick and easy bios or prompts that give you an insight into who you’d be gettin’ down and dirty with.
Photos are also a huge factor in good hookup apps. Apps that show the full view of someone’s profile are the way to go. You definitely want to make sure you’re physically attracted to the person you’re going to be having sex with.
The trouble with hookup sites…
There’s just one problem with hookup sites: a lot of them really don’t deliver. Sometimes they’re scams. Other times the women aren’t that serious about meeting up.
I get people asking me for hookup site recommendations all the time, so I emailed our thousands of members to see what they had to say.
This is a hot topic (pun intended!) and the response was overwhelming…
Based on hundreds of replies, I put together a list of the top hookup sites for 2022. To make the list, a site had to meet the following requirements:
- Multiple men and women had used it successfully
- Healthy ratio of women to men
- Plenty of photos availalbe
- Relatively low incidence of scams (no site is 100% scam free)
You’ve likely heard of some of the sites on this list. They’re the most well-known and popular for good reason: they’re the best.
I deliberately excluded dozens of random sites that have more scams than the established sites (plus, people were not getting results).
In the end, I whittled it down to just three hookup sites because those are truly the only ones I can recommend based on the collective experience of our members.
Sometimes less is more!
You should be prepared to spend a little money. In fact, I recommend avoiding anything that claims to be 100% free. Otherwise you’re wasting your time.
Without further ado, here are the best hookup sites for 2023, according to the DateID community.
AdultFriendFinder is an excellent option for all types of casual dating. This site has made a name for itself as one of the best hookup sites on the web, and for good reason.
AdultFriendFinder hands you the reins when it comes to finding matches.
Unlike platforms that use an algorithm and limit who you can message, AFF lets you browse as many profiles as you want. Once you find someone who looks interesting, just send them a message to get the ball rolling.
Because this dating app doesn’t depend on an algorithm, it’s really important that you write a good user bio. If you’re seeking a discreet encounter, make that clear to other users.
Other than that, AFF is a super straightforward and easy-to-use app for finding hookups nearby.
Cost: Joining AdultFriendFinder is free. But then you’ll want to purchase a membership, which is $39.99/mo US, or less if you purchase up to a year at once.
Ashley Madison has always been the heavy hitter when it comes to hookups, especially if you’re married. While there are many dating sites for cheating, Ashley Madison was the first site to streamline the process and make it mainstream.
Despite having a security breach a few years back this site came back stronger than ever. According to Forbes, Ashley Madison is going strong with over 30 million users signed up.
Because Ashley Madison has been around for so long they’ve completely dialed in on their user experience. Ashley Madison is so advanced it has streamlined the customer’s journey from the web to an app so you can have your needs met on the road.
Both the Ashley Madison site and the app have tons of profiles of attractive individuals that are open to matching – with married and non-married members alike.
Cost: You can get started on Ashley Madison at no cost, but if course you’ll want to upgrade. The premium packages range from $54.99 all the way up to $249.99.
Bottom line: If you can afford Ashley Madison, it’s worth it.
3. Seeking: Best for affluent men
Seeking Arrangement is a great option for financially successful men seeking a young and attractive woman. This dating site is exclusively for sugar babies and sugar daddies.
Now, just a word of advice—if you’re a sugar daddy using this dating site, be prepared to spend some money. In a sugar relationship, money is the name of the game.
With that said, you don’t have to be rich to use the site. There’s a common misconception that sugar babies only date rich guys, but all they really care about is that you’re willing to spend money on them.
So even if you don’t consider yourself rich, if you have the cash you may want to consider this option. The appeal is obvious!
That being said, if you want to meet a gorgeous young woman, this is the way to go. Seeking boasts an impressively high success rate. Most members find their sugar baby in about 5 days.
The reason for this success is the high ratio of female to male users. Female users can sign up at no cost, which encourages a high number of female users.
Cost: Seeking is free for female users. Male users can purchase memberships starting at around $90 per month.
What about discretion?
While it can be tempting to remain anonymous on hookup sites, the paradox is that building trust is important for landing hookups – especially if you’re a man.
If you go completely anonymous or are cagey about providing personal info, it’s going to hurt your cause.
If you want to build trust but also be discreet, get your dating ID from DateID, and set your profile to be private. You can share your profile directly with your prospective dates, but no one searching on DateID will be able to find you.
So if you want to land a hot hookup, level up to Gold and get your ID today.
Remember to stay safe
Before you commit to anything, be search to use our background check tool to make sure your love interest is real. Like I said, even the good hookup sites still have scammers.